Research, Technology, and Teamwork blog by Susie Wee - All Comments

re: How to talk in groups: Calling all quiet people

shirley fox — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 09:48:50 GMT

I went to my best friends house with my boyfriend, and her boyfriend was there, I dont speak unless someone speaks to me i feel like i clam up and cant talk, Ive always found it hard to talk in groups and i hate putting myself in those situations the only time i talk when were all together is when were drinking, i felt so stupid when i came home last night and felt it was a waste of time. when me and my boyfriend left i said i cant do that again, he said im a embarrassment, he doesn't seem to understand. i find it easier to talk 1-1. I really hate the way i am i find it weird!!!

re: How to talk in groups: Calling all quiet people

anonymous2 — Sat, 23 Aug 2008 03:25:02 GMT

It's really nice to see that people are going through similar experiences as myself although I don't know if everyone's cases are as extreme as mine,

I don't consider myself a shy person either. When I am speaking to someone one on one, I actually have a whole lot to say but whenever I am in a group setting it's like I completely shut down. I just always feel like i'm being judged. I don't want to talk in large groups because I don't want attention focused on me and I think it's because I am so self-concious. I'm always afraid that what I have to say might be stupid. When i do talk, a lot of times it comes out wrong. I can't stand it when people ask me why i'm so quiet, it makes me feel super uncomfortable and even more self conscious. I hate work because I always have team meetings and training classes where I am forced to sit with a group of people and I never have anything to say. I feel as though people wonder why I am the way I am and it makes me feel like there is something seriously wrong with me. It bothers me so much to the point that I am afraid to go back to school because I don't want to be in a classroom setting with a lot of people. It saddens me and I don't know what I can do to fix the problem. Whenever I tell people about this issue, the don't take it seriously. Everyone tells me to just not worry about what other people think and i'll be fine. But how can i not worry when these are people i see everyday. I work with them 40 hrs a week, i feel as though i live there..how could i not worry about what people are thinking about me. Maybe it's just me, i think i can be too analytical..

re: Blogging on the beach: Work-life balance

Samuel — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 07:20:37 GMT

Hi @ll...

When it comes to work life balance, I plan to work from abroad, hopefully with my feet in the water... Living somewere close to the sea and work remote for half a year or so still is my dream. I work at HP and I got it approved...

Now question is, are there any HP locations close to the beach? Nice to live, calm place, and were I could rent a place for me and my wife to stay? Tips are more than welcome, please send them to s.mehtala@gmail.com

Cheers and regards,

Sam

re: Your computer: A platform, an appliance, or a browser?

Rodney — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 21:30:16 GMT

I use my computer as a glorified typewritter :-) i got it at www.consumerdepot.com

re: Following from in front and Leading from behind

Hans Wolters — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 21:34:10 GMT

Of course it is. But you still know him, don't you?

re: Desktop vs. notebook: It's all about the display

Andy — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 14:59:01 GMT

Hi, i am a peruvian blogger, it's impresionant how your initial concept of have a computer is very diferent from Peru, in this country recently people begin to know how computers make his/her life easilier, in my case i have a laptop and a desktop pc (in a especial area of my house).

re: How to talk in groups: Calling all quiet people

B. — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 04:02:35 GMT

I envy every one of you, seriously. I have a very odd problem that no one else seems to experience (atleast according to google)...I have a problem with talking to much when I'm nervous, it's like, when in doubt, SAY SOMETHING, which usually only gives me more anxiety because for some reason it comes out with a negative tone of voice (probably because I'm experiencing anxiety). I think this might stem from childhood when I was extremely shy and always got the "why are you so quiet". I have no idea what to do, I instinctivly try to remove all traces of silence in a conversation and I don't know why.

re: An odd passenger

susie.wee — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 08:35:01 GMT

Thank you, aircraft parts! :)

re: An odd passenger

aircraft parts — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 07:00:07 GMT

I think you should do it and don't leave it because of your age rather enjoy it as it will relax your mind all the way.

re: Blogging on an airplane

aircraft parts — Mon, 07 Jul 2008 07:39:30 GMT

That is a nice writing though.

re: Toys in my sandbox: HP Touch, Mini, and Slim

Jeremy — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 19:12:26 GMT

My Dear Susie Wee,

I have just copied and pasted your questions into the top of this post to avoid the necessity of scrolling up and down to answer these questions (maybe simply writing these down on a notebook would serve my purposes more efficiently--that too is another post). This brings to mind the possibly obvious conundrum of view ing more than a page of content on the increasingly smaller monitors of small form factor machines (just something to think about). I believe the two finger zoom capability of a certain nameless device I refuse to dignify (or maybe just have) by naming (and hence advertising) is a useful and elegant solution. There must be another way to accomplish similar viewing of voluminous content. This brings me to my purpose in replying. I am, as many are, to the "cool factor" of the touch sensitive toys (ahem, tools or machines) that are becoming more prevalent and more sophisticated. First, I would like to thank you for shedding light on the subject of HP's future direction (if not the time when my impatience demands this toy in a distinctly undignified and American manner).

Obviously, I love the Touch category. This new technology will make computer use accessible to even more people. This is good for knowledge access (although a double edged sword that may shred a real book--yet another post on a different web page). Kudos to HP for taking the forefront of this race. My favorite characteristic for the TouchSmart is it's lack of multiple wires. That obviously has less to to do with the Touch technology and more to do with the all in one form factor (just keep it--that is a good direction to go in.

My life is busy and takes place in multiple locations. A laptop, particularly a small one, is desireable. I am uncertain exactly what the difference between a Mini and a Slim category is. I can guess that the Slim focuses on width and the Mini on size? Is it also about price point? The two categories seem very similar. I wonder if the mobile phone/pda market will come up to the level of a mini or a mini down to the pda. Either way, the two also seem awfully close. Having a Linux boot option is smart and useful.

So will Touch and laptop ever mix (beyond the already present tablet)? I am waiting to trade in (ahem, put in the trash) my old and nearly obsolete PowerBook G4 12" (which makes me miss my 20 year obsession with PC flexibility dearly) in exchange for a TouchSmart laptop (maybe even a lightweight one).

I know that you, Susie, are already considering these things. I just want you to know that I am too. Keep up the great work!

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re: How to talk in groups: Calling all quiet people

JAndrea — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 15:56:28 GMT

I was great to read these comments and know that I am not alone. I too have trouble in large groups. I am definely better in small groups. Unfortunately for me I have trouble initiating a conversation with people I work with. I have no problem with family, close friends, or even with people I meet that I know I will never see again. I also get tire when people comment on "She's so quiet" and talk to someone I am with like I am not even there. I never know how to respond to that question. It makes the conversion uncomfortable.

re: Following from in front and Leading from behind

susie.wee — Sun, 29 Jun 2008 23:33:43 GMT

Hi Hans,

Great point about the importance of being able to signal changing plans. Would they have followed? Good question- I'll have to try it next time. My guess is that if I went in another direction without telling them beforehand, one of them would have chased me down to correct me and get me back on track, at which point I would have had a chance to tell them. In the ideal scenario, I would have told them enough beforehand to let them know a change might be coming and to stay on their toes so they would be ready to adjust and course correct. On the other hand, perhaps they just would have cheered if I got lost so they could have a nice lunch without me! :)

Susie

p.s. Is this the Hans Wolters that I once knew?

re: ICME panel on HCI for Multimedia Communications

tom — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 14:11:19 GMT

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